"But I'm not going to give up my convictions..."
You don't have to.
How does transformation really happen? What is our objective as those who have been commissioned with the message that brings metamorphosis about? What is our mind-set?
Transformation is as much about us being transformed as it is the people we are hoping to see transformed. Anything different is condescending. Jesus was harsher with those who "looked down (Luke 18:9 ἐξουθενέω "consider as nothing") than he was with those who *hated* their own lives (Luke 14:26).
Jesus modeled this perfectly when he walked the earth. One of the most often cited instances referenced by Followers of Christ is the conversation between Jesus and Nichodemus, the pharisee. It is found in the gospel of John, chapter 3.